In today’s generation, it has become quite common to always see the negative side of things. Whenever a thought crosses our mind, we tend to imagine the worst possible scenario. For instance, before entering a relationship, we fear being abandoned. If someone doesn’t pick up the phone for a long time, we assume something bad must have happened. Even when good things happen, we still find ways to think about their negative aspects.
If this sounds familiar, don’t worry—it’s completely normal. Negative thoughts often come to mind before positive ones. People around us usually advise, “Don’t think negatively,” or “Everything will be fine.” But let’s be honest, we already know that. The real issue is that we cannot stop these thoughts from entering our minds.
Why Does This Happen?
The main question is—why does this happen? Why do we always manage to find negativity even in positive situations? Why does our brain seem so attracted to the negative side?
The Concept of ‘Negative Bias’ in Psychology
In 2001, psychology officially named this phenomenon “Negative Bias,” where our brains naturally lean toward negative thoughts. While the term is relatively new, the tendency has existed for as long as humans have. Scientists have yet to determine the exact cause, but one strong reason is that negative experiences impact our brains more than positive ones.
Our minds are designed to protect us from harmful situations. When something bad happens, our brain becomes hyperactive, creating strong memories to prevent future harm. This is why negative experiences stick in our minds longer than positive ones.
For example, imagine you dress up nicely for an outing with friends. Everyone compliments you on your appearance, but later, a neighbor makes a negative remark about your outfit. Instead of remembering the compliments, your brain fixates on that one negative comment, making you feel insecure.
How Negative Bias Affects Our Lives
Our brain is so focused on protecting us from harm that it prioritizes negative information, often ignoring positive events. Negative bias can impact decision-making, relationships, and overall happiness. Studies show that two-thirds of our brain activity is dedicated to processing negative information, making us more likely to dwell on bad experiences.
How to Overcome Negative Thinking?
Negativity is a part of life, but managing it can improve our mental well-being. Here are some ways to counter negative thinking:
1. Practice Positive Self-Talk
Negative Side: The first rule is to be kind to yourself. When something bad happens, analyze your thoughts. Are you blaming yourself? If so, stop. Remind yourself that some things are beyond your control.
As the famous dialogue from Yeh Jawaani Hai Deewani says, “Stop feeling sorry for yourself.” Instead, learn to forgive yourself and embrace self-love, just like Geet from Jab We Met did. It may be difficult, but it’s necessary.
2. Engage in Distracting Activities
Whenever you feel trapped in negative thoughts, engage in activities that make you happy. Go for a walk, listen to music, watch a fun TV show, or read something uplifting. This will help shift your focus and calm your mind.
3. Consider Both Sides of a Situation
When discussing an event with others, try to present both its positive and negative aspects. This practice helps you perceive the situation more balanced rather than purely negative.
Final Thoughts
Both positive and negative thoughts are part of life. The key is not to let negativity take control. By understanding our mind’s tendencies and taking proactive steps, we can train ourselves to focus on the good while maintaining a realistic perspective.
